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Hi Bob, I hope you’re doing well. I just wanted to check in and see if you had a chance to look at the email I sent you. I’d really appreciate it if you could review it and let me know your thoughts when you have a moment. Thanks so much! Best regards, Rihan

thank you all so much for your kind words

Fabulous and thank you 🤗👍

Listening to this is fascinating and on the ‘real self’ in my role as a teacher I think I was being real with the students but also recognise that I presented a different aspect of myself with others - love listening to your discussions

And where's the rest of this explanation please? You're such a tease!

I would love to hear you discuss racketeering and how to avoid getting drawn into game playing. Great podcast BTW. Mark Coleman

audhd she sounds like me...

thank you we will do this

Here’s a new title: bad endings in therapy

I have an eco-walking article out on Researchgate 💚

Give us one on your relationship. Narcissist and pleaser? Destroy that intelligently please. This is not an assault but a genuine question.

I had stumbled upon the term “Alexathymia“, which is the inability for a person to articulate their feelings. They have feelings within, but struggle to articulate emotions outwardly to others. Would you mind commenting on your thoughts about how Alexiathymia plays into avoidant attachment, and whether you think its definition is relevant in treating avoidant attached clients? Thank you

NO! Please stop. The end goal of all systems is NOT integration or fusion. Please look up the work of Dr. Jamie Marich or Joanne Twombly. The fact you even brough up "Split" or "Sybil" is absolutely ridiculous because both are fiction and not DID at all. This is dangerous and exactly why (we) as a system have to teach functional multiplicity to the clinicians we work with. Your singlet bias needs to stop. There is no "Capital S" self in our system. We are all equal and integration = murder. Who are you going to integrate or fuse to? Our youngest and possibly the largest trauma holder? Yes we need help. Yes we hallucinate. Yes we "wake up" in weird places; sometimes in the middle of eating a meal and that's a whole level of what the heck is going on. We do NOT need to work with people who refuse to learn the newest ideas and understand the suicide rate is higher when you try to force integration on systems. So please.... please ... please sign up for the next DID conference and learn the trauma informed way. #psychosisisnotacrime #ffusiontherapy #diddeservesbetter

I generally love your shows and have a low bar for pedantry but Dr Spock was an American paediatrician, Mr Spock is the Vulcan. Also Data is in Star Trek the Next Generation, not Voyager. I’m wondering if these were deliberate mistakes in order to help disembodied Schizoids like me get in touch with their emotions. If so, it was a masterstroke!

Thank you for sharing and so glad you are in the TA community Also for your kind words about the podcast

Every time vulnerability is shown, it has been used against them and to hurt at a later date, it leads to shutting that side down and turning that emotional side off. being asked "how does that make you feel / how you feeling?" By a non ta therapist within a couple of sessions and was unable to even process the question as nobody had ever asked me that before, so just stared blankly "confused? im not sure what to say?" I had no idea what they were on about... and the therapist got belligerent with a lot of eye rolling and face pulling "this could take you years to get" with no explaination... did 4 sessions and they left me feeling that there was something clinically wrong with me... training in ta myself now, love the podcast xx

dr spock was one of my favourite characters on the orginal series i also think he had ocd traits however this was not mentioned really multi diagnosis??

I would personally like to open 'Pandoras Box' with my studies into Narcissism and the alarming number of Narcissists and Narcissistic people who set themselves up as therapists, councillors and psychologists etc. It's all about keeping up the 'facade' for the Narcissist isn't it but unfortunately for them, ultimately it doesn't end well.

Great episode and would suggest that clients are expecting to be fixed more and more in modern culture . They may have experienced apps which make great claims and even short CBT ‘ interventions’

yes one of my favourite podcasts

Absolutely enlightening! This episode of 'The Therapy Show' provides such a nuanced understanding of power dynamics within the therapy process.

Thanks that's so kind of you

Thank you for taking the time to comment

Thank you so much

thank you for your kind words

Really informative. As a teacher and trainer psychotherapist this is really helpful. Thank you

thank you. glad you are enjoying it

Nice Podcast

Heya :). I'm a trainee counsellor with DID. It's such a normal thing to happen to the mind under circumstances where you have disorganised attachment and trauma that has no way of being processed at the time. I think a lot of it is treated as freaky or mystical - people, including professionals, dissociate from DID - it's a diagnosis that names an elephant in the room. So in a sense, I think it's up to clinicians to work on 'integrating' with the knowledge that unthinkable abuse happens that doesn't seem to make sense - because society covers up a lot and we all turn a blind eye sometimes - and also the brilliant and often unseen defences the mind has for surviving, just as much as it's the clients' task to slowly and gently get to understand and accept the reality of our lives. There are so few people who will sit with us as we are, in our full humanness. Just doing that is a real gift.

Thanks. Interesting discussion

Really enjoyed this podcast. Very down to earth explanation of how people who have become fragmented by dissassociation in childhood can heal as adults. I think the honeycomb metaphor is very helpful too. Beautifully and gently explained, bravo.

thank you for this! i have just started tehrapy for the first time at 32 years old and have very little reference to what is actually happening, what we are doing, how complex it actually is!! it is totally a matrux. well said. thank you for these insights they are very helpful and i feel like im not alone and as confused

hi everyone any suggestions for topics you wish us to discuss

Girl (33) who fell in love together with their (group)therapist (37) last year! Now, 1Y later we would have gotten married probably if we would't have been found out. Find it very unethical that I am not allowed to be in a relationship with whom I am in love with. Find it so sad for him that hé not only lost the love of his life, but also lost a part of his professional opportunities such a lading a group. Simply because we knew we loved each other, came as a surprise halfway through, no physical contact or speaking to each other for more than neccesary. I have always felt completely safe with him, and I am harsh on men that are nasty in any way. I was able to make him feel safe too❤️ Well, if anyone's curious, please hit me up because I'd love to proces this, since it feels terribly unjust as I am independent and feel as his equal.

thank you for your kind words

Thanks for this chat Bob and Jackie - it’s inspirational and clarifying.

Can y’all do an episode on body dysmorphic disorder? Thanks!

This was the most accurate video of HPD I’ve seen

My therapist (M50) just hit on me (F30) . I'm so shaken because he was the only one I opened up in years. Now I regret that, I don't think that I can have therapy again. I'm feeling abused and manipulated. He's very well aware that I'm not able to set boundaries. I'm feeling betrayed. Did it happen because I have BPD and looked helpless to him? My friend is blaming me for not setting boundaries with him before. I bought a little pot of flowers for his birthday, also to thank him for delaying my payments (which I didn't ask for, he wanted to continue when I lost my job). it's so stupid that I got traumatized by my therapist 😢

Hi Bob and Jackie, I enjoyed this podcast, thank you! I am wondering why the video has a hashtag of BPD. Can you possibly give an idea? I can theorize but would love your professional insight. Thanks again.

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thank you glad you find it useful

Thanks for this helpful conversation Bob & Jackie.

Where can I buy the book? Amazon does not have any for sale?

thank you i am glad you enjoyed the podcast

What an insightful podcast. it took me back to my own inner critic from my care givers

Makes me feel a bit emotional. Such a lovely conversation and everything so simply explained. I feel that that the great contribution that Eric Berne gave to the world and one which given his theory is so important ... was that model which everyone can understand which then means that we can communicate with each other on adult basis. Thanks

Thank you! For including same sex transference! Everything is heteronormative by default. Ugh!

I got compassion fatigue last year and became cynical towards myself. my own abilities at Uni and work. As someone with BPD. I can be very demanding sometimes and I'm aware that therapists need to know their limitations when working with individuals with personality disorders. I appreciate your honesty on this subject. 💜

I'm a therapist in California (but born in UK) and I am sitting here preparing for a session with a passive-aggressive client in a few minutes. I googled my way to this episode and really enjoyed it. Thank you!